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Where is the Clitoris ?

Updated: Jan 1

The ORGASM GAP is real !

Depending on your gender, your chances of orgasm during sex significantly differ. Heterosexual women have the least orgasm during sex compared to heterosexual men, who orgasm during sex in 95% of cases. Differences also exist among women when they self-pleasure, with 39% reporting that they always reach climax compared to just 6% when with a partner. It doesn't seem right that in 2022 these huge discrepancies still exist.

A healthy and satisfying sex life is much more than an orgasm count; we need to address the orgasm gap, as everyone deserves a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. An excellent place to start is the anatomy of the clitoris to address the pleasure gap.


The clitoris is part of the vulva and is strongly linked to sexual pleasures. The tip of the clitoris is located over the urethral opening, about the size of a pea. This is called the glans clitoris; it is extremely sensitive to stimulation with over 8000 nerve endings. The glan clitoris is covered by the clitoris hood. Although this is the only visible part of the clitoris, it makes up less than 20% of the structure; the clitoris has so much more to offer than a pea-sized pleasure spot.

So much of the clitoris is, in fact, internal. The main internal structures are the crura and vestibular bulbs. The crura are the legs of the clitoris that branch down from the glans clitoris. While the vestibular bulbs sit behind the crura and wrap around the vaginal canal.

These are both formed from erectile tissue and swell with increased blood flow when aroused. This high blood flow increases the lubrication of the vaginal as well as sensation and stimulation.

Clitoris Diagram
The Clitoris


The good news is that there are many ways to stimulate your clitoris. You can explore your body solo, or it can be something you do with your partner. Everyone is different and unique in what feels good for you. The best thing to do is experiment until you discover what is pleasurable for you.


If you are flying solo, take some time to relax and explore your body with physical touch. There are so many erogenous zones on your body, and everyone has their own preferences. The best approach is to do what feels right for you, from caressing your nipples to exploring the area around your clitoris with your fingers. Starting softly, stroking, and continuing to build on your experience because, let's face it, only you know what feels good.

If your partner has a vulva and you want to up your pleasure game, the most important thing is to have an open dialogue with your partner. A great way to start is to provide indirect contact to the vulva; you can begin by cupping your partner's vulva and allowing them to apply pressure by grinding against your hand. You can move to stroking or stimulating the area around the clitoris. Ask your partner how it feels and continue to adjust the pressure, friction, and speed. Agree with your partner on a sign when it feels good, from noise to a hand squeeze. Be sure to gain some feedback that you are on the right track.

You can add several products to your pleasure chest to enhance your self-pleasure experiences, such as lubricants, finger or nipple gels and vibrators.

The Simple Pleasures recommends

Bijoux Finger Play Gel
Slow Sex Finger Play Gel

Bijoux Finger Play Gel. This water-based formula is infused with aloe vera, which enhances friction-free stimulation. One of the best products to arouse yourself or your partner by

exploring each other's bodies with your hands.

My ilo Egg Vibrator is also a tremendous external vibrator to help you explore what feels

my ilo Egg Palm Vibrator
my ilo Egg

good. The Egg is designed to fit in the palm of your hand; it can be used to stimulate your vulva and clitoris. A palm vibrator is a perfect first vibrator to use with partner play; being external allows you to explore what feels good without penetration.

If you are looking for the best of the best, look no further than the We-Vibe Chorus. This remote-controlled couple's vibrator is designed to deliver potent pleasure in a shared and simultaneous orgasm. An intuitive couple's toy really is the cream of the crop.

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